Tuesday, December 04, 2007

We live... We love.... We hurt.... Part 2

I have 2 tags pending. Don’t you worry I remember about them and will write as soon as I get an idea what to write about ;)
Today I decided to start a new topic on my blog which was long due though somehow always postponed it. I guess I just didn’t have a clear idea of how it should be. Now I have a slight idea, but still it is an IDEA and I am going to hold on it.


Once I have written this already and consider this as one of my best posts no matter what anyone else thinks. And since I am the laziest person you could ever meet and deadline is soooooooo soon, I decided I will just a little bit change it/or maybe not change at all and repost here. Smart, right? ;) Though lazy, of course!

I have a very good friend, in fact one of my best friends and he taught me a lot especially when I had my bad times. He means a lot to me and I know he feels the same way about me. And even though we hardly get a chance to talk to each other these days we remain in each other hearts and know who to lean on when dark times come again.
But friendship and love are not always and only about good times. Sometimes we manage to hurt people who are the most special persons in our life

Life is a weird thing, we have few relationships that are important to us and we fail to maintain them the way we would like - without PAIN, without TEARS, without DISAPPOINTMENTS. but we do continue them because in the end they are all (and here I repeat: ALL) what we have got.

People are going to hurt you every now and then, you are going to hurt them every now and then.. In the end everyone is getting hurt or hurts you, you are the one who decides who is worth this pain You can not live in illusionary world. Life is not only about “Positive”. It is impossible to avoid pain, impossible not to hurt, no matter how caring, wise, sweet we are. Because we are not angels, rather devils in relationships with dear for us people...

I don’t like being hurt by my friends, neither I like to hurt them. And most of all I hate the moments when someone has to say sorry but in any kind of relationships you can’t do without it, you do hurt people, you make up for this, you try to be perfect for the ones you like/love, it doesn’t work always but if we give up on someone we truly like and love, then what life it would be?? It would be different, but do we truly want life to be different?
In that chat with my friend some months ago I assured him that would never give up after the first mistake. Now I still think the same way.

How often we give up only because we think that people who love us cant hurt us? Yes, they can, and in fact they will hurt us more than anyone else! Just because they are close to us, EXACTLY because of it!! But then what?? Give up on them? That’s definitely the easiest way, but again if I would give up on everyone who hurt me I would have stayed alone with no people around. And so would be everyone.
In my life I used to give people second chances, third chances.... twentieth chances... sometimes I was proved wrong, but mostly it paid off... Friendship is all about hurting, being hurt, forgiving, forgetting, being hurt again, crying, laughing about this stupid matters, forgetting, hurting... and so on. It’s a circle, has no end... pure second chances. But from every wound there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says, Friendship survived. Which means it all was worth it :)

Because in the end friendship is the most precious gift, bringing smiles, happiness, comfort, understanding, care and love.And then you always know that despite everything when the moment comes they will be there to help you when you are down, and if they can't, they will lay down beside you and listen...

We live... We love... We hurt... Part 1 (not much difference, believe me, I proved myself lazy :)

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Nick Phillips Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

I agree with you that sometimes you can hurt the one who is closest to you the most. Ironic isn't it?

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

not ecatly ironic, nick. it is just that these are people who are too close to you and they just happen to be there when your mood is off and somehow you are so stupid to let your mood out on them, just because they are close.
and i hate when it happens though we cant avoid it.

anonme Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

"But from every wound there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says, Friendship survived."

Thats a very good line lena.. it kinda stuck with me!

and the ones who hurt us are the ones who matter! cos we don let the ones who don matter hurt us!

the amount of love you show a person is directly proportional to the amount of hurt he/she can cause you!
and totally agree with Nick, ironic it is!

Cheers to the blogger queen!

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

yes, sweets, right you are, the ones who hurt us are the ones that matter the most but in the end, these are exactly the people who we will come to when we feel down and lost, because no matter how much they hurt us and how much we hurt them, in the end they are the only ones there :)

ŋεεяѕ Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

"But from every wound there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says, Friendship survived. Which means it all was worth it :)"

Yeah i love it too and im did not copy it from akila's comment :p
But u know lena, im totally with u on this concept of having atleast one post on love every week. Kinda helps u stay positive throughout the week...after all, we're all surviving just on love! :)

divya Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

True to my experiences lena...u can never let go of ur frends or anybody for that matter in fact...after all u dont give everybody the right to hurt u!!

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

@ neers:
agree 100, nooooooo 200% "we're all surviving just on love!" :)

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

yes, divya, dear, again 200% agree with you too.. you can never let go of true friends.. not for ailly matters not for any others :)

Sam Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

really liked this post of urs... and frankly, it is the truth.. we love and dats why we hurt... to understand how much we love someone, we just have to figure out how much dat person can or does hurt us even with an insignificant action!!!
and to give up on things because they hurt... dats escapism and if dat had been the policy for mankind... adam and eve would have been the last of the species!!
frankly, the pains have got to be der... nothing can be picture perfect.. what u can do is to make sure wen they happen u can heal them.. give the wounds time to heal. dat way all relationships do get teh time to work out the way they r meant to be!!!

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

yes, Sam, you are right, pain is inevitable part of every relationship. We cant escape it, just hope that we will have enough time and powers to heal them :)
Sometimes it doesnt work out, but then maybe it just was not meant to be?
Anyways thanks for your appreciation of my post :)

Iron Pugilist Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

Love can be a hundred different things, and trials will always be somewhere in at least one of the definitions. But that's how it works, right? Trials and compromise.

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

@ Iron Pugilist:
right you are - trials and compromise, and if you manage to deal with it, you will manage to be happy :)
Thanks for coming by :)
You are welcome anytime! :)

--xh-- Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

true - sometime, howmuch ever we dont want to hurt those who are close to us, we end up doing so. when it is all said and done, it is the hurt which acutally decides whethr the eprson is worth keeping or not. nice post :)

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

@ xh:
thanks for dropping by :)
yes, hurt and happiness often go close and we should decide if the person is worth it :)

Nature Nut /JJ Loch Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

Beautiful post, Lena. Nothing replaces the warmth of the human heart or the warmth of a hand but like the seasons, there are changes that happen in relationships. I know people with relationship scars who are afraid to love again. It's sad and I hope they continue on with their lives.

Hugs, JJ

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

right, JJ, lets really hope people will be able to overcome all the pain and start t trust and to love again :)

Ameya Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

I jus loved the post. Its so well expressed, and i can relate to it so much. I was going thro a similar phase :)

Ameya Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

This is gonna be my fav post too :)

Anonymous,  Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

greattt writeup

Sameera Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

Oh sweetie!Nothing to say cause you have said it all.This life is a circle of love with love and friendship forming two concurrent circles.One is incomplete without the other!

Keep up the great writing dearie.Love ya.Hugsss

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

ameya, dear, thank you for your 2 comments!!! sooooooooooo sweet of you! and yes, we all go through such phases just because it is the way life goes :)

Lena Tuesday, December 04, 2007  

Cant believe you have nothing to say, Samiiiiiiii. Thats so not like you :D
But seriously, yes, it is the circle that can not be broken and i guess even shouldnt be, life existed and will exist exactly this way :)

Love you too, dear!! :)

Bubbles of FireWhisky Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

i read this smwhr - its funny hw d only person who can stop you from crying is the same one who made you cry...

but yeah... it does make everything worth it in the end...

Bizarre Kid Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

Here I am! hehe! :)

Ok!! How true!! We hurt! We love! That's how the world goes, Lena. The ones who point out the fault in us are the ones who really care for us cos they just can't see their friends take a wrong path.

Did I make any sense? hehe.. Cos I'm not being myself these days.. Lost!! :|

Lena Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

Right, Mann, but in the end all that matters is that happiness we receive from these people is more than pain we have to take, because it is always 2-ways street... we make them cry too..

Lena Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

welcome back, bizarre kid! :D
i thought you would never show up!!

anyways, right you said: "The ones who point out the fault in us are the ones who really care for us cos they just can't see their friends take a wrong path." - you made a lot of sense!! :)

Why lost?? try to be back to your usual self, after all people love you for who you are :)

Lena Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

yes, abhishek, it is... :)
btw... you were in by the concept of PIF, are you still in, or changed your mind?

c e e d y Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

so true....life is never crystall clear, it has many facets and many colors.....
we have to experience and cherish the good moments and let go of the bad one...
nice post.

Lena Wednesday, December 05, 2007  

thank you, ceedy for appreciation.
and yes, we should always try to let go of bad moments and stay happy with the good ones because they are all that matters to us and people we love :)

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