Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Find Me Guilty

Bloggerville is a special place with all its population, small worlds, communities. It is a model of a real life. We live here, share our feelings, emotions. We feel happy for each other, we cry together. We support, we comfort, we make friends, we live.... We fight... The small version of society with its own rules, its own problems, its own values. Not much difference.

Freedom of choice, freedom of word.. i can say whatever i wish, it is my place, right? No matter how wrong i might be i can tell you anything here, who cares? i can say 2+2=5 and nobody will judge me. I can tell that i hate Tom Cruise and people will tell me - your right. But up to which limits these are my rights? What can I tell you and what not?

It turns out we can say everything.
Hate - it is here!
Insults - no problems!
Discussing in public your fight with she-was-once-my-friend - Cool, why not?

What about moral aspect, people? Dont you think if it is an anonymous thing and we most probably will never meet each other we got the rights to act like no moral issues exist? Didnt your parents teach you what is right and what is wrong? Didnt you know before that saying insulting things about someone you dont know and who has not done anything bad to you ever is bad??

So much for the society where morality isn't respected anymore.

Once you signed up for blog you knew it is public, didnt you? You knew people will come and read your stuff. So why act now like everyone who doesnt leave comments is stalking you or spying on you. Come on, if i drop by someone's place and just read - does it make me a stalker? Wowwwwwwww, then 90% of us are stalkers. I read many blogs, comment on few, sometimes i drop by one and the same blog several times before i write a comment for the post. Sometimes i am sure i left a comment but then it turns out i didnt. Huh!! I am the biggest stalker. When i read a post where i cant say anything to the author i dont comment, because i prefer to be honest and sincere. If it is a crime, then find me guilty. If someone puts my name in his/her blog in negative context I believe i have all rights to read it. Am I wrong? Nooooooo, not wrong, just a stalker, I guess thats worse, nahh??

People have misunderstandings, always had and always will have. Making them public, shouting loud that this blog is fake and that one is pretending too is really a great deal... and when someone who does this teaches me being tolerant, i am left speechless. I was taught to be loyal to my friends and if i see that someone is being unfair or doing things wrong i think i have all rights not to have this person in my life (read: my blog) and stand up for someone i love and care about. And someone feels sorry for me because of it? Someone who is not able to keep her own life on track feels sorry for me? oh.. no comments, will try not to become too personal. But i am not all that loving and sweet. Once people bite me i bite back and i believe i have all rights for that.

Blogs are a personal space, nobody can tell you what to write and what not. And it is not our business to advice someone. But what about common sense?? And what about commenters, who have no idea of what had happened but keep giving comments as if they know, supporting the one side but then going to another blog and supporting it too without even knowing thats exactly that "bad" guy they read in the previous blog about. It is all so much anonymous, we dont know much about each other, we only are here to share out thoughts, opinions, feelings. From where this need of judging is coming?

Would you do the same if it was not in Bloggerville, would you ask for the crowd to come and announce that this your ex-friend is such a ***** (sorry, am to nice to use any cursing). Will you keep insulting and force this person not to use the same streets as you do? Would you involve people who have nothing to do with it? Want to know the answer? You wouldnt...nobody would. Because real society has this moral assets.... Bloggerville does not. Here it is only up to you how to react. But it is exactly here that people can see the REAL you, no matter how anonymous. Why dont we think about it next time when we want to write about hate, when we want to judge someone, when we want to show that we are better.. because ... are we REALLY better?

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Sameera Wednesday, December 19, 2007  

That was awesome sweetie!Hats off to you!

Every word in this post is an echo of my thoughts,but you went a step ahead,you voiced them and that is where real moral fibre lies.

I am so lucky to have met you in this crazy roller coaster of life.Keep up the great writing and be the amazing person you are.Love you loads.God Bless You sweetheart.Hugsss!

divya Wednesday, December 19, 2007  

hmm very well written lenu...and very true :)

specially the lines u wrote about ppl who comment..

though even i once wrote about sumone :P lol

Lena Wednesday, December 19, 2007  

I wrote down how i feel, dear, i hate to keep emotions inside :)
and well i am always here for you and all the other friends...just a hug away :)

love you :)

Lena Wednesday, December 19, 2007  

thank you, div, i wont elaborate, i know what you think and feel, sweetheart :)

zahid Thursday, December 20, 2007  

hey !!! each blog of yours tells not only a lot more of you but your attitude towards your ssurroundings !!

cheers lena !!!

Abhishek Khanna Thursday, December 20, 2007  

kudos.. i like such posts.. bare truths..

Rampantheart Thursday, December 20, 2007  

What you have penned is the real sad truth.When it comes to writing,people must have some emotional honesty,which i am afraid is being ignored nowadays.Guess the name rampantheart suits you better too.Now,whoa!that's two of a kind.lol:)

Anyways,i really loved the talk-out-loud post.Kudos!Keep the words flowing!

Saw that you are from Russia,Lena.How come you know many indian people?I am an indian too and would love to be friends with ya.

Bubbles of FireWhisky Thursday, December 20, 2007  

tat was a vry honest post lena... its tru tat u probably only gt 2 c 1 side f d story on blogs... and we shdnt judge and condemn on d basis f tat... great wrk...

Ponnarasi Kothandaraman Thursday, December 20, 2007  

U r a perfect piscean :) Enjoyed reading this post.

Optimize...don't Compromise!! Thursday, December 20, 2007  

wow... that is just fabulous... straight out of your heart.... i have been a stalker myself for long and .... i could justify each and every word you said in my own way but you already did it so beautifully.... i just love this one..... i have to tell you, i read so many of your posts, but didnt comment on many of them cos.... i really didnt know what to say and also sometimes i was too lazy to type in those word veryfication characters.. :( ... but this one is just too good to let go.... great work lena....

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

well, zahid, the way someone writes always shows the person\s attitude towards life, dont you think? ;)

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

mann, thank you... :)
and right you are we cant judge unless we know the story and even then we are not there to judge :)

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

@ Rampantheart:
lol, i guess it is better if you will be the only one with such name - we dont want to make a confusion, do we? :P
And well, it just happened like that, that i know many people from India, or they know me :P

As for being friends, am blogrolling you, will keep visiting your blog :)

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

@ Ponnarasi: how you figured out I'm perfect piscean? :O
thanks for visiting, you are welcome back anytime :) :)

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

lol... shashi, you are a STALKER :P :P
anyways, its ok with me, that you dont comment, i mean, thing is that you read, others read, someone finds it useful, others just skip it down. But it is all up to readers. I only write what i feel, thats the way it should be..


PS: seems like it was really a good post that you commented :D :D

Optimize...don't Compromise!! Thursday, December 20, 2007  

you bet.... i just loved it.... couple of reasons why i usually dont comment.... i started blogging at the end of semester... so time was kinda very precious.... so i just read when i needed a break... and then after exams... friends graduated... parties everywhere.... lots of things happening... was really caught up in the whirlpool... now that i have time to spare.. am gonna do some good things.... :)

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

hey, its ok, when you dont comment, at least i am perfectly fine :D
maybe if you are going to do some good things you will write a new post? ;)

--xh-- Thursday, December 20, 2007  

soem true emotions here, lena :) what you have written is true - i am one of the biggest stalker if one who doesnot leave commenst are stalkers. and. i really dont know why peopel keep track of who comes and who not comments @ their page...We have compleete freedom to write whatever we want (obviously, inside a certain limit), and in teh same way, every one have compleete freedom to come read and comment or not to comment.
good that you bared the truths than keeping it all bottled up :) three cheers to you, lena.

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

it is not only about "stalking" someone, Anoop, but also about people writing using abusive language, insults and going against all the morals that are to be present in human nature.
Moral is what keeps us different from animals, once we lose it, we are no more human..

--xh-- Thursday, December 20, 2007  

thatz true, lena. morals - something we need to have, though it varies from person to person, a person with no morels are not better than a beast. and though blog is our place and we can ramble anything, we should be careful enoug so as not to hurt others. a basic courtsey, some nettiquet - are expecetd from all the responsable people out there.

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

you spoke my words, Anoop :)

hope Thursday, December 20, 2007  

Yes!! solid write up.. and so true.. good one lena ..i so agree with you.. *smiles*

anirudh Thursday, December 20, 2007  

so true....nice plce dis.!

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

thank you, hope :)
*smiles back at you*

Lena Thursday, December 20, 2007  

@ anirudh: thank you :)
and thanks for coming by!

kaylee,  Thursday, December 20, 2007  

OH I loved that so true! Nice post :)

Vinesh Friday, December 21, 2007  

blogging is a way of life :-)

(¯`•._.•[Raaji]•._.•´¯) Friday, December 21, 2007  

i so agree with you. Awesome post. Very thought provoking. I am glad someone brought it up.
Cheers!

CM-Chap Friday, December 21, 2007  

Beautifully expressed emotions... you have said things aloud which all of us think about...

anonme Friday, December 21, 2007  

brutally honest!
totally you!

maverick Friday, December 21, 2007  

@lena...i saw mel gibson play braveheart on the screen..n d movie made me think...similarly..i believe what u ve written.takes a lot of courage to write...kudos to u :)

Lena Friday, December 21, 2007  

thank you, kaylee :)

Lena Friday, December 21, 2007  

@ vinesh - for some it is not a style of life but life itself. But well it is also true that the moment you start blogging it is hard to stop. It is really addictive :)

Lena Friday, December 21, 2007  

Raaji, thank you dear :)
i am glad you find it thought provoking because i really wanted to make people think a bit :)

Lena Friday, December 21, 2007  

@ CM-Chap:
thank you... i didnt know so many people really think about it :)

Lena Friday, December 21, 2007  

akki, yes, have been honest writing it, i guess we all have to :) there is nothing more honest than people's emotions. We only have to be careful with them while putting down in blogs or wherever else :)

Lena Friday, December 21, 2007  

@ maverick:
i also watched that movie and i have nothing in common with Mr. Gibson :P :P :P
But well when i wrote the post i didnt think about being courageous, i just did it :) :)

maverick Friday, December 21, 2007  

@lena..courage comes in different shapes,forms n sizes :)

Tys on Ice Saturday, December 22, 2007  

:)...

if u feel like doing more stalking, feel free to stalk mine...

always did like people who calls a spade a spade...

Lena Saturday, December 22, 2007  

@ maverick:
cant agree more :)

Lena Saturday, December 22, 2007  

@ Tys on Ice:
lol thanks for letting me do stalking :D
and well i believe if you want to say something you better say this instead of keeping inside and pretending it doesnt exist - the result of this principle of mine is this post :)

Rampantheart Saturday, December 22, 2007  

Ah!that's real sweet!thanks!

Kalyan Saturday, December 22, 2007  

I believe we should do what our mind says & not really care about what others feel...Nice reading your thoughts. I agree with them....Here's Wishing you a Merry Christmas & a Wonderful New Year. May the New Year bring lots of joy, happiness & prosperity in your life & your loved ones.

Lena Saturday, December 22, 2007  

@ kalyan:
i would disagree here - yes, you've got all the rights to write whatever you wish, whatever is in your mind. Just you always should keep in mind that some of your words might hurt people. And insults, rudeness are absolutely out of question, especially when it comes to public places like Blogger.

Thank you for your wishes!! May you and all your dear ones have a great new year full of love, care and understanding! :)

Lena Saturday, December 22, 2007  

@ rampantheart:
you are welcome!!! :)

Vandita Sunday, December 23, 2007  

honest post :)
and loadsa sensible questions asked... i agree i dont think we're qualified enuf to judge anyone anyways, especially when we ourselves dont wanna be judged.

Ameya Sunday, December 23, 2007  

Very nice post lena.. u put it very well as always.. but you were targetting someone in particular, werent you? The post reflects all that's in ur mind..

P.S : Sorry for commenting late :P

Lena Sunday, December 23, 2007  

@ Vands:
you are right absolutely, nobody wants to be judges but everyone tends to judge others.

Lena Sunday, December 23, 2007  

Ameya, dear, it is not that i was targetting someone, not at all. Just this post was inspired by some situation and was an attempt to put some sense to people when they think its possible to insult someone else in public. Anyways it really doesnt matter because i hope i havent hurt anyone's feelings with my post :)

PS: late? huh, sweets, dont you dare again to say sorry :) It is ok whenever you comment or not :)

Nature Nut /JJ Loch Sunday, December 23, 2007  

Great post, Lena, and much needed. Why mire ourselves in negativity when all that does is drop us into a sinkhole. I don't enjoy negative blogs and I pray those people writing them find peace with themselves so their true light can shine. It's there but they refuse to acknowledge it.

Merry Christmas!!!

Hugs, JJ

Lena Sunday, December 23, 2007  

Thank you, JJ :)
It is just that such people feel much more better being indulged in their negative thoughts. So let it be this way, sometimes we just cant help :( Because they dont want to...


Merry Christmas to you too!!!!! :)

Anna Monday, December 24, 2007  

Hi Lena I be honest, I will be back after Christmas to read more of your posts as they are really interesting. I know we conversed a little this year, but I hope that we can do more in the new year. However, I would like to take this opportunity to wish you and your family all the best and a very Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year 2008. Anna :)

Anna Monday, December 24, 2007  

BTW if I recall you had a bit different looking blog, love the change. Anna :)

Nick Phillips Monday, December 24, 2007  

Hi Lena, just dropping by to wish you a Blessed Christmas and a Happy New Year ...

curryegg Monday, December 24, 2007  

Blogs are a personal space, nobody can tell you what to write and what not,,

I truely agree this lena.. BLog means personal.. We can blog whatever we want... But of course, it will be better if it can benefit others as well..

Merry Xmas lena..

Lena Monday, December 24, 2007  

Anna, am looking forward to more visiting in the coming year :)
thank you for finding my posts interesting :)
and yesssssssss, last time the template was somewhat green ;)
Merry Chrismas and a very happy New Year to you and your family as well :)

Lena Monday, December 24, 2007  

Nick, thank you very much and Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year to you too!!! :)

Lena Monday, December 24, 2007  

@ curryegg:
you are very right, my dear :)
Merry Christmas to you :) :) :)

KAYLEE Monday, December 24, 2007  

how are you? merry xmas! when do i get a new post?

Lena Monday, December 24, 2007  

hi kaylee :)
Merry christmas to you too!! :)
Next post will be there tomorrow :)

Sam Monday, December 24, 2007  

well said!! sometimes it really seems beyond comprehension why people react the way they do (bloggers and commenters alike) at blogsville...
ah!! maybe that's why i hop arnd and chose to make my presence felt at very select blogs!!

Lena Monday, December 24, 2007  

@ Sam:
feeling lucky to feel your presence :)

Cinderella. Tuesday, December 25, 2007  

Girl...hopped in here from Sameera's blog.
And boy...some serious discussion.I dont want to intrude and stuff, specifically coz you're going through some trying times.
All I'll say is...you gotta do what you gotta do !!
Lovely blog....keep the goos work coming.
Take care.

maverick Tuesday, December 25, 2007  

hey..merry xmas...enjoy...updated my blog :)

Lena Tuesday, December 25, 2007  

@ Cinderella:
thank you very much for coming!
Right now i finally have overcome these trying times and am back to my usual self, so will do everything to keep witing lovely posts.
Merry Christmas! :)

Lena Tuesday, December 25, 2007  

@ Maverick:
Merry Christmas to you too!
Will surely read the post soon :)

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