Thursday, March 27, 2008

Show You Care

I feel the capacity to care is the thing
which gives life its deepest significance.
- Pablo Casals

Caring - feel and exhibit concern and empathy for others
- from one of online dictionaries

How many truly caring people you have met in your life?
The ones that unconditionally care for people around them.
The ones who dont think about making the world better
but still are doing this.
The ones who are there for you to give support
even though you have not stated you need it.

People who ask "How are you?" and actually want to know this.
People who will stay in touch no matter what because they need to be sure you will be fine.

Someone who would call you on your bad day few hours after you left them in the office/school/cafe just to make sure you are feeling better.
Someone who will be there for you when you want them to be... and even when you dont want to.

Living for others, giving them comfort, support, love, understanding?

Whenever I have been told the best in me is a caring nature i always thought "What a big deal? Most people have!!" Today i was told it is a big deal because unfortunately i was mistaken and it has become a rare quality in people. I wonder why?

Caring is giving. It makes you a better person. It makes your world a better one. It makes the world of people you love better. It makes the big world out there BETTER.

Show you care.
A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle.

I have abandoned my Tag friday last week so decided not to repeat the same this time and have one tag less now.. you can read it at

62 added colors:

Cinderella. Thursday, March 27, 2008  

Such a wonderful post !
And how sincere..!!

Indeed, Lena, there arent a lotta people in the world, who genuinely care for someone else. people are just too busy to even care, and when a pang arises in their hearts for not having cared when they should have, they just discard it away....

And life moves on...
Great post !

Anna Friday, March 28, 2008  

Lena, not many, but one person I have to mention is my husband, he really cares. Oh well it is almost after 6 pm, and he is still in the meeting, I guess he forgot that I am waiting for him in the office, lol, kidding aside, he cares. Thanks for sharing these nice thoughts, and by now Lena you should know what I am thinking of your blog layout everytime I am here (beautiful everytime), but I will not mention anymore. I love every and each of your designs. Anna :) PS I may even come and ask for help when I am ready for my story blob makeover, lol,(may be just a little help, don't like to intrude, I know you are very busy cookie)

Ankur Friday, March 28, 2008  

**A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle

u know, u write wonderfully well and i can identify so very much with u.. :)

there are many others who care, for u, for me, just tat they dont show it often!!!

beautiful post lena...
u r such a good writer :)

Take Care

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

Thank you, Cinderella :)
and when a pang arises in their hearts for not having cared when they should have, they just discard it away....

And life moves on...

so true it is.. unfortunately..

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

Anna, i am happy to hear you have such a caring person around you all the time :)

Sure you can ask for help regarding design any time. I would love to help :)

PS: you were the only one who noticed the change in design till now :P

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

Care is not something to show, Ankur... it shows itself when you do.. So if people care you will feel it :)

thanks for the compliment on my writings :)

and you take care too!!

hope Friday, March 28, 2008  

Wonderful thought as always..

At times i pity myself for caring too much for others.. even when they don't bother at all.. but i can't help it coz its my nature.. but now i wont curse myself.. coz i know na i am special ..hehe *smiles*

noushy syah Friday, March 28, 2008  

Lovely post Lena,never tired reading your writing and as the other friend mentioned..your layout...always awesome! I Love green too..:)

They always say, caring is sharing...I think they are still many out there have this attitude,and I'm glad to tell that I have so many friends and people surrounding me that care so much and you just know it when they do..their genuine heart.

'Caring' is something natural in us and it's really help to boost emotionally and spiritually of others when they needed it most!!

Thanks for this wonderful post my friend.Have a gr8 weekend and take care yea.

Tina Friday, March 28, 2008  

Lovely lena.....i really find very lil ppl who truly care for others .i knw this coz my first passion is to be thr for the hurtful soul...and sometimes its hard to see wen ppl can stp for jus a sec to help their loved nes out...i mean only if u satrt with ur loved one can u really think abt bein thr for the ones u dnt even knw...

Gr8 post

a new philosopher is born Friday, March 28, 2008  

hey just wanted to tell u, that people all around u are caring and wondeful souls.....
and its just that, more often than not, get bogged down by other things. but even these people often manage to find time and care for their loved and beloved, for people who mean a lot to them. belive in people, they are like u and me...they care....
btw, wondeful post, u have a great blog here....amazing template and wondeful articles....great work...keep the spirit

suren Friday, March 28, 2008  

coincidence or a random occurrence, precisely i was having a similar thought somewhere in the innermost corner of my mind... was thinking about those few who live actually for others.... ur write up has brought my thoughts to the centre stage n i would ponder more now ;)

Anonymous,  Friday, March 28, 2008  


there are very few people who care but thats the best thing about them..They are rare

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

Of course you are special, Hope :)
you know this, i know this... people know this too :)

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

caring is sharing... rightly said, Noushy :)
but people dont like sharing much!
I am happy you have such wonderful people around you :)

take good care,
have a great weekend!

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

people have become very selfish, Tina.. many look for some profit in life only and thats sad especially when we do the same with people we love most

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

@ a new philosopher:
for me caring is something that comes from heart and is unconditional and results in real actions and not only words.
I am blessed to have such people in my life but they are really few..

thank you, am glad you liked my blog
would love to see you back anytime :)

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

@ suren: would love to read your thoughts on the same subject

welcome here :)

Lena Friday, March 28, 2008  

absolutely right, rashi, thats the best about them - they are rare :)
welcome in my blog! :)

Saloni Friday, March 28, 2008  

my mom dad care for me
my shweetheart too :P
nd all my ex too :p in different ways
and for the rest i dont care :P

it was indeed a lovely read :)

Matty Saturday, March 29, 2008  

very good yaaar...
Really nice thought!!

But one thing..
Tomorrow might be worse!!

tomorrow might be even better!!

Keshi Saturday, March 29, 2008  

I CARE and I know U CARE too. And thats enough for me to be happy with.


btw come play the game in my blog ;-)


divya Saturday, March 29, 2008  

u know how much i care for you :P

Farah Deen Saturday, March 29, 2008  

caring is sharing and sharing means you love! wonderful entry and very motivational.

Vasanthan Saturday, March 29, 2008  

i don know if i have mentioned this before but i like this new green look.Good for the eyes and a very neat look.

As for the post. very interesting and this one is for the heart.

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

@ saloni:
maybe thats also a good approach, but then if you dont care, people wont care too... just give it a thought :)

thanks for coming by!!

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

@ matty: it can be worse, it can be better. Important is that today is a good one :)

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

Keshi, makes me happy too :)
sure will switch over to your blog soon :)

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

Divvi, dear, i know :)

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

so caring is love, farah? ;) :)

maverick Saturday, March 29, 2008  

A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle..

tht was a nice line :)

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

Vasanthan, you couldnt have mentioned this thing about the template as this is a new one :P

thank you :)

Lena Saturday, March 29, 2008  

@ maverick:
thanks :)

Sai Saturday, March 29, 2008  

NIce blog and the post too !
It is not possible for any person to see any human like that except his/her own mother !

Pri Sunday, March 30, 2008  

a very honest post...
and its very true..there are very few ppl in this world who genuinely care for u...
we gotta find them or let them find us and then cherish them forever :)
loved the quotes...

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

@ Sai:
thank you but i would disagree, there are other people than mother who care too, just they are really few and sometimes we maybe feel to see that :)

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

Pri, thank you :)
Indeed they are few, and i am blessed to have the ones i have in my life.
Hope they will stay there forever :)

unpretentious_diva Monday, March 31, 2008  

there's nothing like unconditional love or care.
those who says or feels or demands it are fake.
every action of love or care is bound with reason.
Reason rules the reality.
Reason is the only way which leads a person with brain to understand the reality

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

@ unpretentious_diva:
those who seek for reasons are just selfish. Love and care from a selfish person are not love and care, they have other name.

Those who love unconditionally are never fake. Because loving for reason is ridiculous, caring because you will get something out of it is ridiculous too.

Reality doesnt mean to be understood, it exists without our realising it. Only our feelings can change the reality.

unpretentious_diva Monday, March 31, 2008  

I saw your orkut profile...wanted to scrap you there..but its not open.

You have got some nice books list you have read, but you missed Ayn rand.
read "we the living", "the fountainhead" and "virtue of selfishness"

"we the living" is all set in russia.

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

I never read these books, thanks for advice, would really love to read them :)
Orkut profile is really closed due to some personal problems in the past :(

unpretentious_diva Monday, March 31, 2008  


Selfishness is the virtue just like honesty.

Rational selfishness, rational egoism, is the right way to live.
Other talks are just fake false and corruption which weak moralistic and corrupt people uses to mallign humanity and Individuality.

Enlightened Self-Interest is the only way of truth!

since you are russian as you say, you should have some knowledge about Dostoevsky

Dostoevsky's interest stemmed, in great measure, from his belief that egoism was destroying Western civilization. Following an 1862 tour through Europe, the author's Winter Notes on Summer Impressions (1863) described egoism as

the personal principle, the principle of isolation, of intense self-preservation, of self-solicitousness, of the self-determination of the I, of opposing this I to all nature and all other people as a separate, autonomous principle entirely equal and equivalent to everything that exists outside itself.

read Dostovesky too

unpretentious_diva Monday, March 31, 2008  

you can add me at your orkut as friend and then I may be able to scrap you :)
take care.

unpretentious_diva Monday, March 31, 2008  

Philosophically, Chernyshevsky, Dmitry Pisarev, and others represented a view called Rational Egoism (in Russian, razumnyi egoizm), and this outlook had two aspects that coexisted uneasily. The first was a belief in 'psychological egoism,' the deterministic doctrine that people necessarily pursue the goals they believe to be in their best interest. Obviously, there are objections to this and the Rational Egoists attempted to deal with them. But the greatest difficulty faced by the Rational Egoists was that they simultaneously believed in "normative egoism," the ethical doctrine that people ought to pursue their best interests. The need to reconcile a belief in determinism (implied by psychological egoism) with a belief in free will (implied by the injunction "ought") was a paradox the Rational Egoists never solved.
Ayn rand did it.

Ayn Rand was also russian.

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

@ diva:
well, that a difference of opinions. Of course I read Dostoevski, but it is not like we should believe everything that great people have ever wriiten. We have opinions based on our experience and understanding of life.
What is rational selfishness? It is a term created by those who want to justify theit inability to care unconditionally. What about all the people who adopt kids, sponsor school and are ready for just a random act of kindness because they feel so? Are they fools?
I guess it is up to everyone to decide what is better for them. For me selfishness is appropriate in some matters. Well i am a selfish person. But then when it is about people i love and care about, then it is unconditionally, not because i feel good about it, not because i get something from it. Just because it should be this way. For me. For someone else it can be a different way.

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

Well, Ayn Rand left Russia when she was 20, and is not really known here. But i would sure read her books.

Dragon Monday, March 31, 2008  

its such a touching post..i adore it..nice blog ..

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

@ dragon: thank you :)

Wanderlust Monday, March 31, 2008  

great blog..

nice post..

thought provoking

keep posting!!

cheers :-)

Lena Monday, March 31, 2008  

@ wanderlust:
thank you
keep visiting!

manorath Monday, March 31, 2008  

oho.. i stopped caring for people once i actually started "becoming practical" u see.. these days, "u r so sweet" is no longer a compliment.. like today i asked one of my class mates to use the queue instead of me at the atm..

good to read about the virtues the people possessed in "those" days..

Nature Nut /JJ Loch Monday, March 31, 2008  

Lena, what a fantastic post!!! It is rare to find people who care for others nowadays and that is why I find your blog so beautiful. All around me I see people speeding through their days. They cram so much into 24 hours that they don't come up for air...and have no time even for themselves, let alone others.

I'm glad you are showing that there are mentors out there who want a person to live a rich, fulfilling life. :D

Hugs, JJ

Mel Avila Alarilla Tuesday, April 01, 2008  

Hi Lena,
True caring is indeed a rare trait nowadays where people always think of their own selves. People who genuinely care, just like you, are like bright stars in the firmament of heaven. Their love and caring are something that dispel the apathy prevalent in the world today. Continue to be the caring and loving person that you are. People will love you more for those traits. Thanks for the excellent post. God bless you and your loved ones always.

Dragon Tuesday, April 01, 2008  

u can ask ur queries bout the template lena..ll be glad to answer it.

Lena Tuesday, April 01, 2008  

@ manorath:
only if people will continue thinking like you these traits will become the ones of those days.
But we are lucky there are still people who care.
Even you do, at least for people you love, dont you?

Lena Tuesday, April 01, 2008  

exactly JJ, life is so hectic, that people forget that they can care. It really hurts to realise this truth though.

Thank you for your always kind words about me :)
take good care :)

Lena Tuesday, April 01, 2008  

Thank you, Mel!
But all the same applies for you too :)
God bless!

Vandita Wednesday, April 02, 2008  

wow u just made me see that i possess a rare quality too ... :P
but fortunately i know of quite a few ppl who care :)
nice post!

Karthick Sunday, April 06, 2008  

Great lena to read this type of passionate article..Kudos to you

Lena Tuesday, April 08, 2008  

great you know such people, Vandi :)

Lena Tuesday, April 08, 2008  

thank you, karthik :)

*~*Sameera*~* Friday, April 11, 2008  

Lovely post dear!I know one person who is just like that...YOU!

Love you loads sweetheart.Stay beautiful!Hugsss

Lena Friday, April 11, 2008  

Sami, Sami, Sami... thank you thank you thank you!!! :)
I hope i really am, sometimes i have doubts even about it :P

Love you too, sweetu!

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