Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Does It Hurt?

People say love hurts.
Does it?
Loneliness hurts.
Losing someone hurts.
Being rejected hurts.
Indifference hurts.

But does love hurt?
Does it hurt when you have this one person… and no matter for how long you haven’t seen each other and for how long you haven’t talked, you do come back to them every time and fall for them all over again and you love them, whether its wrong or right. You just do…


Does love hurt?
When you had a tough day and come back home and have this someone to hold you. Just to hold you, not giving a hug, you know. But hold you tight and take all your worries away.

Does love hurt?
When you know you are not alone and can rely on someone? Can believe? Can trust?

People say love hurts, but maybe that’s the only thing in the world that actually does not.



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lukkydivz Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

love never hurts janu!!

only indifference does.
loneliness does.
etc etc etc does :D :P

WarmSunshine Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

What you've written is true, no doubt... but that's just one side of the story...

it hurts when you've gotta let that love go for reasons not in your control.

It hurts when the one you love and obviously trust, breaks your trust.

It sure does hurt when you *have* to leave that beloved and you gotta forget him for ur own sake and find out you just can't do it, cz they're there, in everything you do, in every smile, in every thing that's connected to you.

Now enough of me being melodramatic hehe :D

Nice post Lena! As always with your special **sweet** touch! :)

Mehreen.

Lena Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

you got it right it, Divvi :P
smart girl!

Lena Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

@ Mehreen:

to often we confuse other feelings with love and think it hurts..

whatever one feels is love and it does not hurt, but indifference of the one that doesnt care, ignorance, selfishness - these are things that hurt.

love does not... circumstances do, people do, but not love.

Arti Honrao Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

People say love hurts, but maybe that’s the only thing in the world that actually does not.

Right!


GBU
Arti

Sach! Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

Expectin' miracles while you're in love hurts! Nothing else..

Ani Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

lena..

i feel love should never hurt.. but then thats not the case is it?? just that we end up expectin so much from the person we love.. all that trust.. understanding.. being there for us all the time.. which sometimes is not possible..

even though when u have a person and still lonely that hurts.. means that then haven't connected enough to know each other..

like mehreen also rightly said.. it then hurts to move on.. when u know that it is the right thing to do.. it still hurts..

lovely post as always :)

Lena Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

@ sachi:

yaa girl.. but then expectations hurt and not love, right? :P

Lena Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

@ ani:

yes, i know what you mean, it wont go anywhere, we will expect always, thats human nature... and sometimes circumstances are stronger than we can handle.. but then in the end it is not love that hurts, but things surrounding it.

Lena Tuesday, November 11, 2008  

@ Arti:
am glad you agreed :)

God bless you too :)

Ken Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

I haven't stopped in for a while and I'm sorry for that. I have missed a lot I fear. but I will be back to see more.

Arv Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

hmmm... thats an interesting line of thought... but you are right, love does not directly hurt :)

well written...

cheers mate...

Keshi Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

Ur right Lena...Love doesnt hurt..people do.

:)

*HUGZ*

Keshi.

Trinaa Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

it definitely hurts..at somepoint or the other..it definitely hurts..

Suresh Kumar Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

Love hurts when you can't make the world beautiful for her.

But the situations which u depicted , love will not hurt, but would bring calmness and peace to the inner self.

mayz Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

love dsnt hurt...not at all...
its d expectations from love which hurt

Too much to lose Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

nicely written...The situations which you have portrayed are very touching.....

Leo Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

love not hurts lena...
being in love does sometimes, but not love itself!!:)

as for loneliness, losing someone, rejection, indifference....yeah it does hurt...

being in love is the best feeling... and

"you have this one person… and no matter for how long you haven’t seen each other and for how long you haven’t talked, you do come back to them every time and fall for them all over again and you love them, whether its wrong or right. You just do…"

that sounds like me, and my darling...!! :) lol...its gonna b 10 yrs soon..!!:D
Love not hurts...!! only expectation from it hurt.

Vinay.

Cinderella. Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

Love doesnt hurt Le, the way it makes you feel inside - making you vulnerable, at someone's mercy, like his every breath counts, his every word has the power to make or break you...like you know there is someone who knows you right from your blood vessels to the tip of your hair...and when that ceases to happen, then is where it hurts....

Nice post !

Vasanthan Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

it hurts when the one u love does not do what you expect them to do. Love with no expectations does not hurt

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ ken:

its ok, arent we all caught up with stuff every now and then. :)

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ Arv:

directly or not, it does not.. its people who do.

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ keshi:

yup, dear, absolutely right! :)

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ trinaa:

i believe you confused love for feelings and emotions that surround it.

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ suresh:
it is not like LOVE hurts but the situations in which you cant make liffe beautiful for her. Love has nothing to do with our capabilities.

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ mayz:
yup, thats what i meant.. glaв you agree :)

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ too much to lose:
thank you :)

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ Vinay:
you got the message absolutely right!
Expectations hurt, and they depend on us and not on love... so in the end it is all about people

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ Cindy:

you said it all. can hardly add anything. But really feels painful even to read this.

Lena Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

@ Vasanthan:
when you expect something from someone it is one thing, it is not the feeling of love but rather the feeling of being accepted, being cared for, being loved, of course they all are connected.. but love is above them all.. its one thing that does not hurt.

rantravereflect/ jane Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

heee :)
love doesn't hurt..

love n jealousy together hurt..
love n expectations together hurt..
love n lies together hurt..
love n betrayal togteher hurt..
love n distrust togtether hurt..

it takes two to tango..
it takes more than just love to hurt :)

vishesh Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

true,love never hurts :)

Pri Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

it hurts when u see the person u love walking away....
it hurts when u miss that special someone....
it hurts when u realise u cant have the good times u shared back....
it hurts when u are convinced u can never love anyone as much anymore...

and the real reason behind all these is that u have loved someone soo much that u just cannot see beyond them anymore...
had there been no 'love' in the first place, there wouldent have been any eventual 'hurt'...

so love does equal to hurt in a way....
lucky are those who know no hurt in love but then they are the ones who havent loved enough :)

would love to know ur answer to my latest post!
maybe that could set us both thinking....

joiedevivre Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

hmm dunno dear
hope it dosent

•♥•♥[V]♥•♥• Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

love hurts when the one u love doesn't love u back.

if u keep urself busy..u will not be lonely..then it can't hurt you.

i think will power can take u through each and every path of thorns u can ever face.

tc

humbl devil Wednesday, November 12, 2008  

love never hurts...expectations do...
:)

Think Tank Thursday, November 13, 2008  

i guess it does and it does not ...but im not too sure..m comin 2 d party

shadowsinthemoonlight Thursday, November 13, 2008  

I agree with Mehreen but am adding a situation where you do not leave forever, only temporarily. (Read about trauma victims, too...) (Read on.)Yes, love can hurt beyond anything imaginable when the circumstances render you powerless, betrayed, speechless, worried, and in fear for your loved one's life.

For example, your loved one needs serious professional help, whether that be a job, counseling, or other medical services but is in such denial that his/her behavior wounds and alienates all who love him/her.Whenever you think of that person, the love wells up inside of you no matter how angry, sad, hurt you are. That love always envelopes you and oh, it hurts, that the person is forever connected to you, but is in such duress. It's not circumstances hurting. It's love; it's remembering holding him/her close to you, reassuring, consoling, conversing,...everything and then poof: your life is beset with lies by this person who once loved you and now doesn't know what love is. Yet your love stays because it's the type of love bond that is not broken by circumstance.

Lies and denial abound but you still love this person who is bound to you either by commitment of marriage, friendship, or blood relation. (Spouse, friend, offspring, relative.) Feeling and being powerless to help the person because it is his/her choice magnifies the aching love that sees that person destroy him or herself along with others you love. *Cries*

Pranav Kumar V Thursday, November 13, 2008  

I've never been there though, but that's what I remember Nazareth sing - Love Hurts!! :P

And from what I read, of what you wrote, given those conditions, it would take some other species than the homo-sapiens for love 'not-to-hurt'!!

Kartz Thursday, November 13, 2008  

Love... Is tantalizing (to me!). So... Yeah, it'll hurt. Disappoints do have a touch of hurt in them...

R.E.II™ Friday, November 14, 2008  

I have put you down as the Queen of Russia in my story...will continue shortly

rayshma Friday, November 14, 2008  

it's not love that hurts. but being in love may lead to hurt.. when u're in love, u're rather vulnerable..
the expectations... people.. comments.. perceptions... a lot of things that can hurt u tremendously when u're that vulnerable.
but heyy... it's all worth it if u find someone who wouldn't hurt u ever and protect you from being hurt as well :)

Keshi Friday, November 14, 2008  

byeeeee for a lil while Lena! I'll be bak when it doesnt hurt anymore :) HUGS au revoir!

Keshi.

(¯`•._.•[Raaji]•._.•´¯) Friday, November 14, 2008  

well people say that love hurts when you dont have all these things that love gives us.

hope Friday, November 14, 2008  

love hurts when the person you love is right there but you know u can't have them.. have to let them go.. it hurts n hurts bad..

it hurts still we love to love all times :)

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ jane:

**it takes more than just love to hurt

i guess you are right, love alone cannot hurt, just in combination with our expectations.

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ Vishesh:
glad you agree :)

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ pri:
i would disagree here:
it is not love that hurts, but the feeling of being rejected, the feeling of being not cared about. Of course if there was no love we wouldnt have those feelings either, but directly, love does not hurt.
Expectations do.
People do.
Circumstances do.

Love does not!

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ Neha:

it is what we believe, lets believe it does not :)

R.E.II™ Friday, November 14, 2008  

Love is like a butterfly...it lives for a short while and dies. How sweet! Do butterflies hurt? This is the way I think of it...

I'll be back

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ V:

when someone does not love you back, it is not love that hurts but the feeling of not being a chosen one for that person.

**i think will power can take u through each and every path of thorns u can ever face.

absolutely! :)

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ humbl devil:
agreed :)

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ farah:
seems you are as confused as we all here :P

welcome to the party, dont forget bringing gifts :P

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ gel:

thats what i actually meant.. it is not love that hurts but those feelings which surround love, like the one when you feel helpless and powerless when people you love need something you cant provide.

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ pranav:
wait till it happens and then decide if it hurts, dont go for what others are saying :)

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ kartz:

well... it is all in the mind, perception, i would say.

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ Red Eyes:
ummm... Queen of Russia? thats quite an honour!! Thanks!!

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ Rayshma:
exactly, absolutely!
that is what i meant to say with this post!

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

Keshi dear,
be back soon! :)
take care, girl!

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ raaji:
i guess it happens when we cant handle our own expectations.

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ hope:
i know it hurts to let them go when circumstances dont allow them to stay. But even then you can be happy for at least having had them in your life.

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ RedEyes again:

**Love is like a butterfly...it lives for a short while and dies. How sweet! Do butterflies hurt? This is the way I think of it...

thats a beautiful expression.. though i think this "short" might last the whole life because what is life is not a short moment of eternity?

Talking To My Soul Friday, November 14, 2008  

If I may.

That was some GREAT thought on the most used and abused word LOVE. I guess, love has no place for hurt. Expectations do. Very often, we do mix these two.

Result: We all know.

It was pleasure reading the post.

*cheers*

Lena Friday, November 14, 2008  

@ talking to my soul:

of course you may!! thank you :)
am glad you liked this post.. and we really do mix love and expectations, hence so much confusion :)

welcome to my blog!

Talking To My Soul Saturday, November 15, 2008  

hey, i am blogrolling you, Lena.

of course, with your permission first.


*cheers*

Anindita Saturday, November 15, 2008  

That was nice. A refreshing change. :)

Lena Saturday, November 15, 2008  

@ talking to my soul:

of course you have this permission!!

Lena Saturday, November 15, 2008  

@ Anindita:

thank you :)

♪♪HARINI♪♪ Saturday, November 15, 2008  

it hurts when the person you so want is so close to you but yet so far to reach out for. or rather when u reach out for and he isnt there to hold ur hand...

Lena Monday, November 17, 2008  

@ harini:

yes it does hurt a lot, but then again these are all expectations and circumstances that hurt and not love :)

Kartz Tuesday, November 18, 2008  

Ummm... Yeah, perception. I'd say tht too.

Peace.

Priya Friday, November 21, 2008  

If love realy hurts why do they think of that person more and more even if their relationship breaks or away from each other.

*~*{Sameera}*~* Saturday, November 22, 2008  

Good things in life never come easy,and love is one such thing.If it hurts,it's in order to strengthen the bond.And if it's for the purpose of hurting alone,then that can never be love.

Lena Saturday, November 22, 2008  

@ priya:
you raised a fair point here... got me thinking, maybe will write on this one :)

Lena Saturday, November 22, 2008  

@ sami:
you said it all, even better than me, am jealous now :x :P

but really agree with each word you said :)

The Solitary Writer. Tuesday, November 25, 2008  

love hurts those who r used to separation n all..its individuals view...... i second mehreen's view...quite true though......and nice post feels good

* hugs *

Vandita Saturday, January 31, 2009  

well this reminded me of a hindi sayin which goes "hum ladte bhi uss se hi hain jisse hum pyaar karte hain" meanin we fight with only those who we love dearly.

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