Too often we underestimate...

If i had my life to live over...
by Erma Bombeck (written after she found out she was dying from cancer).
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.
I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.
I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.
"There would have been more "I love you's.
"More "I'm sorry's.
"But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it .. live it ...and never give it back.
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I know i have posted it already but just felt like doing this again, making us all and myself again realize how often we underestimate the power of kind words, of being together with people we love, the power of true feelings... We fail to express our love, we forget to make people we love feel they are special to us, we waste time on senseless things and don't find time for really important ones.
Only when we realize how short a life can be we start to appreciate the common moments of it. The power of common words. The ones we never repeat because our loved ones are supposed to know how much they mean to us... And only later we realize how much we missed by not telling them how wonderful and special and amazing they are ... because we can never know which time is the last one... Keep telling each other good things, make each other smile, show your dear ones how much special they are because tomorrow it might be already late. Like one wise little girl said once: Keep saying to people that you love them, they tend to forget this...

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Thinking

Today I was looking for something in my blog. I knew exactly where to find that poem i needed to refer to but somehow it took me more time because i stuck at some of my old posts rereading them and wondering if i still think the same way or changed.

We all change throughout life, getting new experiences, making new mistakes, being influenced by new people. And as a result the way we think changes and things that i said few months ago might differ from the ones i would say now.

But there are some things that will stay the same because they determine who we are and what we are worth. Weird thought but it is true in a way... I know i changed in the last year because things have happened that werent supposed to happen, people have gone that were supposed to stay, people have come who were not expected to be there but altogether everything that happened for a reason, it made me stronger, it made me wiser, it made me different.... and it even made me think different, i made me take the reality different, but in the most important matters like friendship, family, life approach it is still the same.

It is really weird... I changed but the way i think about life has not and the way i would react and comment on some points is still the same. And in fact i do not know what it means....
I only know that i like it.
Maybe it sounds weird but then i think that it might be the reflection of my sick (still not feeling well) mind.... :)

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I am back

I have been kind of sick lately, just today got back to my dear computer and then i realised how much i missed..................................... hmmm...not the computer... but my friends and family, people who give me the strength and encouragement. It felt amazing but unbelievable how many people left messages wondering where have i gone. So now i announce i haven't gone anywhere, i am here only :) And will try not to scare people with my absence anymore!! Can not promise though. Anyways it is a short introduction only, will post some new (read: old) thoughts in the next entry.

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Decision Making

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way? Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make.
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Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The great critic Leo Velski Julian who told the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids.

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

(from another forward mail)

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“I’ve got to know that to become happy you need to experience the periods of total unhappiness. When you haven’t studied at the university of sorrows, your happiness can not be durable. Love lives in the hearts for long only when both of partners know its price. And it is better to pay in advance than afterwards. We are not ready for happiness, because we are not used to suffer. “

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Miracles happen!

Miracles Happen... Anytime, Anyplace, Anywhere....

But only if you BELIEVE!

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Fight for things that are worth it!

When things don't go the way you want doesn't mean you give up!! It's hard to give up on something you know may never happen...but it's even harder to give up when it's all you ever wanted.

Giving up is not falling down and feeling knocked out.... It is refusing to stand up. Whenever you feel that things go wrong and are afraid you can give up, remember why you have hold on for so long in the first place. We don't get things for granted, we live for them, we fight for them, we give our best to achieve them. And when we don't succeed it does not mean we were bad or not good enough, it only means that next time we should try harder.

Don't believe if someone says you won't make it. Those who say it can not be done should not disturb the ones who are doing it. Remember what is important for you, what matters, what you live for.

And now think if you give up who will do it for you? The answer is NOBODY!
Then why give the others the pleasure of their being right about you. The greatest fun in life is doing something other people said IMPOSSIBLE!! Fight for what you think is worth it, stand up for what you believe, protect the things you love. We just should remember we are not knocked out until we think we are not! And then you can achieve the impossible, believe in things that matter the most for you, believe that you can and fight for it, fall down, stand up and fight again, and never ever give up on things and people that are worth being in your life!! :)

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have a greatttttt day everyone!!

I know i didnt keep my promise, but i am so much caught up with work these days that i know i will be forgiven. After all i am writing now :)
Now some update about life. It goes on, and it goes on much more quickly that it is expected. Already october, so much to do, so little time. Trying hard to manage, am successful till now but it is painful in a way that i hardly get time for myself not to mention someone else.
Weekends are often just a lie down, when i cant do anything but sleeping, eating and watching movies. sometimes it feels like wasting time but it is more like filling myself with some energy.
Work is going good but hectic, too many expectations... my boss wants me to do the impossible and i am so much afraid i really will not manage, that would be horrible.
Now something more positive!! No matter what life brings there is a need always to keep smiling which will make your day and the day of people around you brighter!! :) And again i wonder why blogger has no smilies ... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr... not that i am angry but it is really disappointing!!
i know i am talking crap now but who cares - after all thats a free world of blogging and i just want to say what i want. Especially want to make people believe that i am still alive :)
BELIEVE ME!!! I AM!! and i will be back very soon :)

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Promise

Just a promise to everyone who still keeps on coming to this page and finds nothing but the entry from 22nd august!!!
I will update!!... promise.... i will do it tomorrow :)

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