Sunday, December 30, 2007
Friday, December 28, 2007
me: old, out of use or even broken down :)
divs: u knew it or u used dictionary :P
me: of course i used the dictionary! my vocabulary is so grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :D
divs: yeyeyeyeyeyeye :D
me: happy, nah? :P
divs: veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy happyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
me: depends on context i guess but mainly something like agreement
divs: sami says concord is a plane :P
me: and she is right :P
me: there is even a car concord :P
divs: oh god
me: yes there were planes concord, they were very fast
divs: but do u think in my gre they wud ask me the names of cars n planes?
me: lolz you can never know!
divs: :P they wudnt
divs: i hav it all in my mind, my mind is a dictionary
divs: hahahahaha ur an idiot
divs: insousiant=carefree, huh
me: it doesnt have to do anything with pillow??
me: i know this word! it is the same in russian :D but actually it is just canyon :P
divs: now will u tell me wat is means? :D
me: as if you dont know!
divs: canyon=chasm :P
me: is it?
me: ohh... really it is..dictionary says the same :P
ur soooo sweeeeet
me: you sure this word exist?
me: oily? :P
divs: yep wer did u find?
me: my brains told me :P
divs: lolz :D u hav brains :O
me: sometimes :P
me: propi-how??? there is no such word!
divs: :D lolz appease anger :P
me: i swear you invented it just now :P
divs: lolz idiot :x
divs: hmmm incisive ok...but forceful
me: who told you?
divs: lolz this isnt fair, my words list told me :D
me: lolz then it lied
me: wowowowowal ??? :P
divs: lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz :D lenaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa:D ur such a sweetheart
me: really? :P
me: it is denial, right?
me: too long!
divs: :P decay
me: is it a new words or definition of the dil-something-thing?
divs: huhuhuhuhuhuh :D
me: oohh i guess they are synonyms, no wonder i dont like both :P
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
2. For each question, press the next button to get your answer.
3. You must write the name of the song no matter what - no cheating ;) - huh!! just i thought about cheating and here it is!!
IF SOMEONE SAYS "IS THIS OKAY?" YOU SAY?
Have I Told You Lately by Rod Stewart .......
Watch Me Shine (Legally Blonde Soundrack)
I'm gonna show the world the strength in me
That sometimes they can't see
I'm about to switch my style
And soon things may get wild
But I will prove I can conquer anything
So from my head to toe I'm taking full control
I'll make it on my own
(Better watch me shine)
WHAT DO YOU LIKE IN A GUY/GIRL?
Someone Like You by Van Morrisson
Someone like you makes it
HOW DO YOU FEEL TODAY?
Amazed by Lonestar
I'm so in love with you
I Just Called To Say I Love You by Stewie Wonder
WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO?
I'll Stand By You by Pretenders
Ill stand by you
Ain't No Mountain High Enough by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terell
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR PARENTS?
I Swear by All for One
Living to Love you by Sarah Connor
I Believe I Can Fly by R.Kelly
DO YOU THINK OF YOUR BEST FRIEND?
Since You've been Gone by Nevergreen
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
A Moment Like This by Kelly Clarkson
WHAT IS YOUR LIFE STORY?
I Dont Wanna Miss a Thing by Aerosmith
I don't wanna close my eyes
I don't wanna fall asleep
'Cause I'd miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing
'Cause even when I dream of you
The sweetest dream will never do
I'd still miss you, babe
And I don't wanna miss a thing
That is my favourite! Of all times. And well .... I dont wanna miss a thing.....
WHAT DO YOU WANT TO BE WHEN YOU GROW UP?
One in a Million by Bosson
HUH!! Me is grown up.... or not really....or grown up... no, i am not... or am i? nooooooooo, I am not!! yessssss, I am! huh!! one in a million? i hope i am................................................ grown up! ;)
WHAT DO YOU THINK WHEN YOU SEE THE PERSON YOU LIKE?
Everything I Do I Do It For You by Bryan Adams
hmm.... and everything this tag does to me is kind of right till now ;)
WHAT DO YOUR PARENTS THINK OF YOU?
Reach by Caleigh Peters
Whatever you do, you’ll never be wrong
As long as you reach for it
When you reach for it, nothings to far
And its never to long, as long as you reach for it
You can dream on it, everywhere its there
They want me to be happy... thats obvious :)
WHAT WILL YOU DANCE TO AT YOUR WEDDING?
You Gotta Be Bad You Gotta Be Bold by Desree
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day
Herald what your mother said
Readin' the books your father read
Try to solve the puzzles in your own sweet time
hmm.... might be might be...
WHAT WILL THEY PLAY AT YOUR FUNERAL?
A Girl Like You by Edwyn Collins
Haha..if they play this I will be happy ... in heaven..... or hell..... whatever!
WHAT IS YOUR HOBBY/INTEREST?
I Dont Know by Erika
lol !! i was not cheating :D I swear!!
WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST SECRET?
So Yesterday by Hillary Duff
If you're over me, I'm already over you
If it's all been done, what is left to do
How can you hang up if the line is dead
If you wanna walk, I'm a step ahead
If you're moving on, I'm already gone
If the light is off then it isn't on
At least not today, not today, not today
hmm.... i am keeping my secrets well :)
WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR FRIENDS?
You're Beautiful by James Blunt
errr.... ignoring the story of the song... yes, my friends are beautiful!! :)
WHAT SHOULD YOU POST THIS AS?
On The Side of Angels by LeAnn Rimes
We are on the side of ANGELS, arent we?
uffffffff... done with it!! ;)
Sometimes you listen to a song and you hear the words, but sometimes you listen to the song and know the story... sometimes it is a story of someone's life. So lets listen not to words but to stories :)
Monday, December 24, 2007
My dearest friends!
I want to thank you all for being here with me all this while and giving me encouraging comments and appreciating my thoughts and writing. I respect each and everyone of my readers, their thoughts, their opinions, their personalities. Now I thought about writing this post though know it is not exactly my wisest decision because even the most close people to me asked to ignore and just live my life happy despite everything. Maybe I will but first I needed to write this post.
Some of you might have wondered what was the last post pointing out, where the shoutbox has disappeared and why the comments are moderated now. Some of you might have got some clue as we are visiting the same blogs and comment on them together. For the rest of you this post will not say much and I am happy if it is so.
The reason for all these changes in my blog is a disagreement I once had with one of the bloggers. I will not give link to the blog of this person here because those who know her they do, and the rest will find out if they decide it is necessary for them. The reason for disagreement was deleting her blog from my blogroll out of some personal reasons. I do not know this girl, I have never talked to her, the only communication was in blogs leaving comments on each other's blogs. My comments never sounded offensive and insulting though. Neither were her till the certain moment.
I dont understand how the fact of being deleted from a blogroll might be so hurting for some people that they keep on leaving hatred anonymous comments regarding who i am and what i write about. I am not here to judge anyone - thats her life unless it has become in touch with mine which made me make some arrangements regarding security of this blog, because my blog is not a place of the war, the war which i do not see any reasons for.
I would not say how good or bad this person is. I do not know her other than from her blog or comments she is leaving on people's blogs and on my own. I only want some peace at least in my place. She might leave comments to my comments on other people's blogs like she is doing - thats her right, and I do not care, just i believe that comment section is a place where we share our thoughts and beliefs, and not a place for fight, thats why you will never find me replying back to her sarcastic comments on other people's blogs. I believe if you have to say something to someone - find the courage and say it personally instead of sneaking around and doing it behind someone's back.
Why I am writing all this? Well... because I have had enough and because like i once said - When someone bites me I bite back. I dont want anyone to be influenced in whatever way it might happen. I am not asking you to judge or to take any decisions, I only want you to know that i will not let anyone treat me this way just like this.
If some of you think like her that my posts are disgraceful and cocky, i dont make you read them....
If some of you think like her that i am saying something disgusting about India and its culture, just let me know when and where, because I know 100% that i never did.
If some of you feel disturbed that i comment on blogs what are written by indians, giving my views and opinions about things that matter to all of us, then i am sorry, just tell me and i will stop visiting and reading your blog.
Blogs are not an area for fights and wars, and if this girl is so much disturbed by her own fight and doesnt manage to bring her own life on track, I will not let her make my own a battle field. Because unlike her I do not pursue happiness. My happiness is always with me.
Now if someone feels they dont want to have anything to do with me after this post, it is a free world, people. We are free to come and to go....
For my dearest and loving friends.... I will not remove the post, do not ask. I am not the one who deletes them once written, not because I think that deleting is bad but because I have my own principles too.
Topic closed. At least in my blog.
P.S. Comments for this post disabled.... not because i am afraid but because this one wasnt meant for commenting...
P.P.S I was supposed to write one post tomorrow but am not in the mood to write on the topics regarding love as Tuesday Love Ramblings are supposed to be such one :) Next proper post will come on Wednesday.
P.P.S. Name removed after long long long attempts of my sweet friend Sameera to come to my mind. She succeeded only partly, it resulted in the changes done to the post.
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Monday, December 17, 2007
You will not believe but that's me again :D What a wonder, isnt it? For all of people who commented on my last post and who were very very nice I just thougt of letting you all know that I am doing much better :) And things are going better and life is not super great but GREAT! :) Thank you to all of you for caring and supportive coments :)
Now to post. Tuesday, so that must be time for another TUESDAY LOVE RAMBLINGS but....
Always there is a "but", nahh?? And this "But" are tags that are pending, and pending, and pending... So today i thought of combining tags with love ramblings. I am very very smart, dont you think? ;)
I was tagged like 2 weeks ago by JJ to write 7 (!) WEIRD facts about myself. I know there was a tag about 8 random facts of me which you can read here but well, this is not exactly the same as i am going to write about 7 WEIRD things I love :)
The things are posted in no particular order, just like they came to my mind. Rules are as following - me only posts these 7 weird facts and tags another 7 lucky people to do the same ;)
So, here I go!
1. I LOVE bookshops....
You better never leave me
alone in a book shop because
i can spend there hours. And it doesnt matter if it is a big shop or a small one, it will take me the same amountof time. When I am inside time stops existing. Life is absolutely different, world is not the same anymore. I guess I would even be able to live in there :D
2. I LOVE tea....
Ok, ok, not that exactly weird because many of us like it, but please no coffee, and only black tea with no milk and no sugar, NEVER. And it should be hot too!! Then i can drink it for breakfast, for lunch, for dinner (i mean instead of breakfast, lunch and dinner)
3. I LOVE being alone...
And, yes, I really do, be it the impossibility of being alone (there are always people around) or signs of my introverted (?) nature but there are moments (and they are often) where i dont want anyone around. Not that i feel uncomfortable with people, not like that, only that being alone is a little bit more comfortable
4. I LOVE mathematics...
Thats definitly my first love, my teachers were so much sad when i took a had decision of giving up studying this. But there is amazing beauty in it, dont you think?
1 x 8 + 1 = 9
12 x 8 + 2 = 98
123 x 8 + 3 = 987
1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876
12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765
123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654
1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543
12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432
123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321
1 x 9 + 2 = 11
12 x 9 + 3 = 111
123 x 9 + 4 = 1111
1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111
12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111
123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111
1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111
12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111
123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111
9 x 9 + 7 = 88
98 x 9 + 6 = 888
987 x 9 + 5 = 8888
9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888
98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888
987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888
9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888
98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888
Brilliant, isn't it?'t it?
And look at this symmetry:
1 x 1 = 1
11 x 11 = 1211
111 x 111 = 12321
1111 x 1111 = 1234321
11111 x 11111 = 123454321
111111 x 111111 = 12345654321
1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321
11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321
111111111 x 111111111=123456789 87654321
It should be loved!!! :) :) :)
5. I LOVE "Charmed"...
I have watched all 8 seasons for many times, knowing them almost by heart but still keep on watching and watching. I have them in 3 languages - russian, german and english and i just cant stop myself from watching any time when i feel bad - it makes me feel secure somehow when i know that the evil will be destroyed completely and the power of love, care, life will be on top again!! :)
6. I LOVE mess....
Well, really, dont like things to take their places. You should take a look at my desk. I call it "creative chaos". My mom calls it a "mess". Most probably she is right but i love it the way it is.
I always know where i can find anything i need, but once someone makes some kind of order there I am not able to find anything at all..
7. I LOVE the question "really?"...
I just ask it like every second sentence and it doesnt mean i doubt anything you say, it only means that i love to ask this :P Once i promised to a friend that i will try not to ask it so frequently because he complained about me doubting his words. But then his answer was like "Dont change it. If you wont ask it, it will not be you". So i am still there keep asking "Really?"
Ok, done!! Yahooooooooooo!! Life has not been easy for me these last few weeks, things are complicated but blogging is one of few reasons why i hold on because i know after rain there is always sunshine and and everything is gonna be alright :)
Not tagging anyone, whoever feels he can/want/will do it, is very much welcome :) :)
Saturday, December 15, 2007
Thursday, December 13, 2007
How often we complain about life being unfair to us.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
I have become slow and less regular in blogging, all due to increasing workload and stress at work. I promise to be back to my usual regularity once I get some little more release from all the assignments i have to deal with at the moment.
But this time i just cant not write anything as some crazy mad angel told me it is about time and i promised to write something today :D
Here I am with TUESDAY LOVE RAMBLINGS.
Maybe it will be harsh on someone but thats the way i think life is going.
Sometimes things happen that we would prefer to avoid.
Sometimes you leave someone or you are left.
Sometimes all you have left are the memories.
And sometimes you are just not able to let go....
It is easy to talk about it, when it doesnt concern you.
It is simple to give advice when it is not you crying all night long.
It always seems to you that you just know better.
You think you know but you just have no idea....
And it is hard to be there when your friend is suffering.
It is difficult to find the right words to make them feel better.
It is impossible to take their pain away when all you want is them being happy.
Because no words of yours will ever be able to cease the pain.
No actions of yours will make them forget, forgive and believe again.
You think you know but you just have no idea....
Dont assume your friends dont know what they have to do.
They know precisely.
They have been told it several times.
They told this to someone else several times.
But they just can not. Not easy... needs time, needs strength, needs understanding.
And you are helpless there, watching them destroy themselves, suffering, losing their identity in trying to save the little of their love left - sweetest memories.
You think you know but you just have no idea....
And all you can do is to be there for them, to give your care, love, support, understanding.
To make them believe that life can be better than this. And it is not easy when all your friend is able to see is darkness and uncertain future without someone they love....
You think you know but you just have no idea how much your friends need you at this time....
Friday, December 07, 2007
Feeling down last couple of days, somehow me and not me, lost in space, time and reality. But even being lost and disturbed as I am these days I remember I have to write the tag. "Life would be different if.." And actually I knew what to write about but somehow not into anything these days, even was not sure if I would write anything this week.
But today while waiting for the bus to go home after work i thought that life would be different, if I didnt have to stay there in this cold evening and wait for the bus for the time period which one would call eternity! And then I again thought and thought and thought..... I guess I just thought too much and then..... well .... then the bus came.. not mine!! Whatever! I took this one, just like that as it came to my mind, then changed it, took another one and another. Finally it was the one that could bring me home.
And sitting there, almost falling asleep I got this line that was supposed to be the last line of my yet-to-be-born post. Trying to catch the line and not to let it go i pulled myself together and concentrated on it.. Somehow didnt work out and the line was gone. Felt miserable, really, but then i caught it again ... and again lost it... playing hide-and-seek with this thought i finally reached home and tried to store it somewhere deep in my mind in order to get this thought out of it when time comes.
So you see I really had to write this post otherwise the thought would have gone forever. This tag is pending for such a long time which someone would call ETERNITY. During this time I read lost of tags done by my blogger friends and only wondered what should I write about. Now I know.....
we didnt have smiles that happen for no reasons
we didnt have smiles for every reason
we couldnt laugh till it hurts
we didnt have friends to be with us when things go wrong
we didnt have friends to be with us when thing go right
we didnt have friends who we could call at 4 am just like that
we didnt have pillow fights
Life would be different if
we knew what to do
we knew where to go
we knew what it is all about....
But does it matter? If we have these small moments of happiness each and every day, do we really need to know why sometimes things go wrong and we cant do anything about it, why sometimes life is dark and people just dont care.
Sometimes when we think the world is dark, it is just us closed our eyes. Open the eyes, start to appreciate the moments you have got because it might happen you wake up one day and those moments are gone and life is different... but then ...different doesnt always mean better. Happiness is not in looking for better options, it is in the ability to appreciate the ones you have got. There is only one life you've got to live and choose to live it happy because there is no way to happiness, happiness is the way..
And life would be different if i didnt tag Sameera because i also have my mischievous side :D
Anyone else eager to write on the topic is very much welcome :)
PS: forgot to tell that i was tagged by bizarre kid :)
Wednesday, December 05, 2007
So here I go giving out awards.. (I just love this!!) for those people who have been with me for the last few months inspiring to write, to think, to observe.
and which i want now to give to the authors of the following blogs:
What to say about her? She has such a springly blog. Just love it. Keep it up, sweets!
Dont know but just somehow was caught up by her blog. It feels great to be at her page.
Dont you dare to stop writing, sweetie!
Who pretends not to be bizarre anymore :P
but i love his blog for giving food for thought, and even though we happen to argue,
but who does not?
Divya - my blogger queen, she has an awesome way of writing, she takes funny things, senti things, thinking things and then... wow ... Great Post is there. Love you the way you are, keep writing no matter what!
Awesome blog, one of those I start and end my day with, always waiting for updates!
Sameera -my INSPIRATION, my GUIDE in Bloggerville. If not for her I wouldnt ever be back to blogging. Love you so much dear. Keep inspiring us the best way like noone else can :)
Now one more award is left. As a regular reader of http://blogsweluv.com/ (great place for discovering new cool blogs) I have received this Christmas Award which I now want to present to all the people on my blogroll.
So if you found yourself on my BlogRoll then this Award is yours as well (even if you are already mentioned in this post).
Lets spread love, joy and happiness in this Christmas Season! :)
Love you all!!! :)
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
I have 2 tags pending. Don’t you worry I remember about them and will write as soon as I get an idea what to write about ;)
Today I decided to start a new topic on my blog which was long due though somehow always postponed it. I guess I just didn’t have a clear idea of how it should be. Now I have a slight idea, but still it is an IDEA and I am going to hold on it.
TUESDAY LOVE RAMBLINGS
Once I have written this already and consider this as one of my best posts no matter what anyone else thinks. And since I am the laziest person you could ever meet and deadline is soooooooo soon, I decided I will just a little bit change it/or maybe not change at all and repost here. Smart, right? ;) Though lazy, of course!
I have a very good friend, in fact one of my best friends and he taught me a lot especially when I had my bad times. He means a lot to me and I know he feels the same way about me. And even though we hardly get a chance to talk to each other these days we remain in each other hearts and know who to lean on when dark times come again.
But friendship and love are not always and only about good times. Sometimes we manage to hurt people who are the most special persons in our life
Life is a weird thing, we have few relationships that are important to us and we fail to maintain them the way we would like - without PAIN, without TEARS, without DISAPPOINTMENTS. but we do continue them because in the end they are all (and here I repeat: ALL) what we have got.
People are going to hurt you every now and then, you are going to hurt them every now and then.. In the end everyone is getting hurt or hurts you, you are the one who decides who is worth this pain You can not live in illusionary world. Life is not only about “Positive”. It is impossible to avoid pain, impossible not to hurt, no matter how caring, wise, sweet we are. Because we are not angels, rather devils in relationships with dear for us people...
I don’t like being hurt by my friends, neither I like to hurt them. And most of all I hate the moments when someone has to say sorry but in any kind of relationships you can’t do without it, you do hurt people, you make up for this, you try to be perfect for the ones you like/love, it doesn’t work always but if we give up on someone we truly like and love, then what life it would be?? It would be different, but do we truly want life to be different?
In that chat with my friend some months ago I assured him that would never give up after the first mistake. Now I still think the same way.
How often we give up only because we think that people who love us cant hurt us? Yes, they can, and in fact they will hurt us more than anyone else! Just because they are close to us, EXACTLY because of it!! But then what?? Give up on them? That’s definitely the easiest way, but again if I would give up on everyone who hurt me I would have stayed alone with no people around. And so would be everyone.
In my life I used to give people second chances, third chances.... twentieth chances... sometimes I was proved wrong, but mostly it paid off... Friendship is all about hurting, being hurt, forgiving, forgetting, being hurt again, crying, laughing about this stupid matters, forgetting, hurting... and so on. It’s a circle, has no end... pure second chances. But from every wound there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says, Friendship survived. Which means it all was worth it :)
Because in the end friendship is the most precious gift, bringing smiles, happiness, comfort, understanding, care and love.And then you always know that despite everything when the moment comes they will be there to help you when you are down, and if they can't, they will lay down beside you and listen...
We live... We love... We hurt... Part 1 (not much difference, believe me, I proved myself lazy :)
Sunday, December 02, 2007
Life can be unpredictable sometimes. Hmm.. what i am saying ... it is not exactly so, life is unpredictable almost always and sometimes goes the way we less expect or dont expect at all. But the most beautiful things in our lives come as unexpected ones. So it was very unexpected for me, or better to say "for my blog", to be awarded as best love related blog :D
Ok-ok, I myself also wondered first time what does my blog have to do with LOVE, but like Sami said it is UNIVERSAL LOVE and I would agree with her here. Now about the person who presented me (read: my blog) such a wonderful Award: this is Mauro from Portugal who happened to run a blog dedicated completely to love which consists of love messages from people all over the world. And the main idea is to collect one million love messages! And you can also leave messages for people you love and care about there, sharing the happiness and your feelings with the whole world!! :)
And when I received this award I thought about something that kept my mind busy for the last couple of weeks, I just want to dedicate one post in the week to LOVE. No matter what the subtopic of it might be but the main topic will be LOVE itself. Dont know about the day but it might be Tuesday or Wednesday, something like Love Ramblings :D Anyways will try not to be trite there :) that much about love! and awards!
Now back to my blog. I have so much to write about that it might take many posts but I guess not today. So let me just start and we will see together where I end, if I end at all, which is also quite possible.
Today I was supposed to work, but ended up watching "Heroes", just couldnt stop. OMG - that took a lot of my time which was saved for some office stuff. Huh!! Lazy person I am, my fault only, but at least I enjoyed and finally finished the first season :) Thats the most important thing I guess, when you know that you have had a great time even though you know you will have to work harder in order to catch up with things!
Anyways that was just a short digression and now I will start with something that really occupies my mind. And no wonder that this time it is blogging. I mean when you keep blogging you come to think what to blog about. Why you blog, what you blog about, who reads you, who comments, why they do it?
I do not want to talk about people who keep blogs for some professional needs or for earning money. I am talking about those of us, who keep their personal blogs and try to maintain them on a good level. Why are people do this? What is the main idea of blogging for you. I happened to read many blogs as of lately, but only few have this something in them that catches you and makes you read and read and read and come back to read again.
Why is the number of interesting personal blogs so low? Maybe because I myself personally am not interested in people's lives' details? Not that curious what is going on in the lives of people I dont know. What I mean is that people who keep personal blogs can be qualified into 2 big categories: the ones who show up their lives and the ones who share their thoughts, opinions, art. Not that i am against putting personal life online, not my business, even I am suffering of it too, because after all it is my place and I can do whatever I want. It is just that sometimes I have the idea that people who put their lives completely in their blogs forget that it is NOT the life.
Once I read on Nick's blog his advice to someone bothering him too much "Get a life, start blogging", wow.. i love this thought, and it is a true one in a way because for most of us blogging has become an important part of our life. But the main word here is "PART". It is not LIFE like some people must be thinking.
Why I am writing this now? Why should I bother? Personal is personal, absolutely not concerning me, but... There is always a "but", right? We consider ourself a society, blogger society, bloghopping is a normal thing, going from one blog to another is a norm, leaving comments for people we dont know and maybe never will know is a must, or at least a necessary part of blogging. But do we realize that our comments might have an influence on someone's life. That they might take decisions based on the idea of the most comments.
Now dont tell me that people are not so stupid to take comments of fellow bloggers as a handbook and follow them up to the last point. Actually some people are... Not stupid, but listening to these pieces of advice we give them. Because some of them are out here exactly for this - for getting some comfort, for getting advice, for letting someone make decisions instead of them.
Why do you write? For the sake of writing? For putting down what you feel? For calming yourself down? Because it helps you? Because it is like self-therapy? Just for fun? Do you want to be appreciated? Do you want people to agree with you? Show you that you are right in whatever you are thinking?
How many blogs are positive? I mean you happen to read blogs, good ones or bad ones, how many make a positive influence on you? How many make you smile? How many make you think? How many share positive emotions with you?
I dont know the statistics of blogs and I am even sure there is no statistics for this issue. But most of blogs I happen to come across while my aimless journey in net were DARK. Dark in the meaning of no light, no positiveness, no happiness. People keep telling themselves and the whole world that everything goes wrong and never ever will be the same as it should be. Lost love, bad managers, problems in family and in work. People lost the ability to be happy about small things, it is much more easier to cry and complain.
But the weirdest thing is that WE SUPPORT them in that. By coming by, seeing such a blog, reading a sad post and then saying to yourself: "This person needs comfort and help. And I can give him/her a part of myself, of my care, of my happiness". And we leave comments saying that everything will be better and that the managers are always bad, that the lost love was not worth them, that family should learn respect them and they just should ignore everyone scolding them. Nothing bad in such advice, isnt it? Just some more care shown, some love from different corners of the world, comfort and understanding.
The question is "How much GOOD does it really do?" Now please dont think about "How is it possible for my little sweet, nice message to hurt in any way"? Now give it a little thought: when your close friend keeps being obsessed with lost love ruining his/her love, what will you say?? Will you repeat that he/she should move on and dont think about the past, that their ex is not worth it, that you understand how they feel, thatsomething like "keep faith and hope", "dont worry, he will come back to you", "he just doesnt understand what he had lost", "try to make up with him", "do everything possible", "do what your heart says".
Will you?? Will you just let this person near you destroy yourself by being there in the past, by losing their identity? YOU WILL NOT!! But for someone you dont know personally you will leave a comment like this (all the above are comments of bloggers to one of such post). Where is the difference? We will shake up our dear and close friend telling them that they need help, they need their life back, they need to live, they need ... but we will leave some nice and sweet comment in someone's blog for the same and just leave?
When you leave comments do you believe in what you are saying? Do you think it might help? Do you know what will be the result? By leaving such "sweet" comments we make people weak.
They get illusionary assurance that they are right in their position, that they are victims of circumstances and deserve to be comforted, taken care of, loved. Well, hell, we all do but if we encourage this in such people they will stop to struggle, they will think thats the way the world goes like "I will cry and people will come and help me". And by thinking that we help, sometimes we only make everything worse.
And by leaving a different comment, different from the one expected, when you try REALLY help and not just cry along with that person, you are the one who is not welcome anymore ..sometimes only because all you have said was the TRUTH! People dont like the truth, they like and long for sweet lies which makes them feel important. But do we need lies to feel important? Arent we already important? For ourselve, for our families, our friends?
You know the answer, dont you?
Now, just a humble request for all reading this post.. Next time when you leave a comment for someone, think if you are saying the truth going from your heart, trying really to help... or you are just saying something nice and sweet in order not to hurt a person you grew close to in Bloggerville. The choice is all yours... All I want to say is "Sometimes... in order to heal you need to hurt".